Top 10 Common Excuses For Not Doing A Boudoir Photography Session

As a photographer, I hear “reasons” all the time from women why they can’t do a photo session and I’m telling you today that those “reasons” are really just excuses! Whether you’re considering a boudoir session or professional head shots I’m a huge believer in loving yourself as you are today in this very moment. If you aren’t quite there yet, we can help empower you to see yourself as the confident, individual that you are. So, without further ado, here are the Top 10 excuses women tell themselves (and me) why they can’t do a photo shoot right now, and my responses to them and YOU!

#1) I need to lose 5 or 10 lbs. first

Most women who say they need to lose weight before their session are often afraid they won’t like what they see in their photos. I’m not trying to discourage you from committing to a weight loss journey if it is for your health and emotional well-being, however, you DON’T need to lose weight to look good in your photographs! I believe that every woman is beautiful as she is right now. I know how to pose you and use lighting to enhance your best features. Professional hair and makeup services are provided the morning of your photo shoot to add that extra confidence boost to feel ABSOLUTELY GLAMOROUS!

#2) I’m not very photogenic

As a professional photographer, it’s my job to pose and direct you during your photo shoot. Coaching you into the pose, allows you to relax and not worry if you’re “doing it right”. You will know exactly what to do and how to do it. I will make sure you don’t feel awkward in front of the camera.

#3) I can’t do a boudoir session because I don’t own any sexy lingerie and garters or stockings aren’t my ‘thing’

Here is a small list of what clients wore in some of our favorite boudoir photo shoots:

Matching bra and panties
Yours or your significant other’s button-up shirt
Favorite team’s sports jersey
Tank top or camisole
Oversized sweater
A satin robe or kimono
Or just a bed sheet …

Whatever it is that shows your personality works! And remember, this can also be a great opportunity to go shopping and get something new.

#4) What if he doesn’t like my pictures

Trust me, he will! He already loves you for who you are and thinks that you are beautiful in your everyday look. We will be photographing you looking amazing, sexy and confident. No man in his right mind wouldn’t appreciate gorgeous images of the woman he loves. Here is a quote I received from a previous client:

“… He was so pleased with how they all came out. He actually teared up. He said how happy I looked and that he was really glad I ended up doing them even … He loved how special they were. And I know he will treasure them…”

#5) I’m shy and don’t know how to be sexy

That’s OK! As a matter of fact, it can often be easier to photograph women who don’t have a preconceived interpretation of what “sexy” looks like. I can direct or provoke a thought that will effortlessly capture your expression in a way to convey the best look for your photos.

#6) What if I want to keep my pictures private

You may have seen boudoir portraiture on our web page, blog posts, advertising and possibly our newsletter; Portraits that YOU may not feel comfortable sharing with the public. However, we only share photographs of women that allow us to display their images so that other women can see the potential beauty that lies within them. We have every client sign a release form that either grants or denies us rights to showcase their beautiful portraits. The choice is completely yours. If you want them to remain completely private we honor that request.

#7) I can’t afford a photo session

I won’t pretend to know your financial situation. You may not be able to drop several hundred dollars at this very moment, but we can help make your dream photo shoot come true by setting up a payment plan for you. Or, you can save for a photo shoot just like you would a girl’s night out, a vacation, or that designer handbag you really want! A professional photo session is an investment, but it’s something you can do! If you want a confidence-boosting, unforgettable experience with quality portraits to cherish for a lifetime, you can have it!

#8) I’m too old to have photos taken

Are you too old to feel special, appreciated or beautiful? You get to choose to embrace who you are throughout life’s many beautiful stages. You may not be that same girl as you were in your early 20’s but now you’re even better…you’re a woman. A strong, beautiful, independent woman at any – and every – age!

#9) I don’t feel comfortable getting naked in front of strangers

That won’t be a problem because we don’t shoot nude photography. We do shoot implied nudity but you will be covered in all of your photographs. Boudoir portraits can be as covering as you want them to be. There is a spectrum of how revealing you want your portraits to be from fully clothed to a tasteful ILLUSION of nude. The important thing to remember is that we will meet you where you’re at. We will never have you do a pose or wear an outfit that you are not comfortable with. Also, remember that we will not share your portraits with anyone you don’t want seeing them, so you can feel comfortable showing more skin in front of the camera. In most cases, you will be wearing more than you would for a day at the beach. Our aim is to keep it classy and comfortable!

#10) I’m not married and don’t have a boyfriend

Any photo session, including boudoir, is more for YOU than anyone else. Realizing your beauty is one of the most incredible things a woman can experience and having amazing portraits of yourself looking absolutely ravishing is life changing. Here is a quote from one of my clients that actually made me cry when I read it that explains it all:
“It was so much fun. I cried telling about my confidence issues, but I soon realized that I’m not the only one who feels that way. Today, I felt beautiful. Today, I felt powerful. Definitely makes me want to take a second look in the mirror and tell myself “I am worth every good thing that people say about me.” I am awesome and beautiful and quirky. I need to own it. That’s me. Like it or love it, it’s me!”

Your session is custom designed to fit you and your needs. Whether you are here for professional head shots or bridal boudoir, this should be a day for you to reconnect with yourself, relax and have a great time.

I hope I was able to address some of the excuses that we all tell ourselves. What it all boils down to is fear of the unknown and now that it’s no longer “unknown” you have nothing to be afraid of! So… what are you waiting for?

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If you’ve ever dreamed of having a photo shoot that is all about you, whether it’s a romantic and sexy lingerie boudoir shoot or an intimate and glamorous portrait session, we have the studio, stylists and photographer to provide an unforgettable and empowering experience. Call me to set up a complimentary consultation where you can see the studio and we can talk over coffee about how you want to be photographed.

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